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WhollyLove
Welcome to WhollyLove Website, thank you for taking the time to visit our site.
We hope that you enjoy your visit, and that you come back often! We have set up
this part of the site so that we can introduce ourselves, and the thinking
behind the site. The information you can see on this page is a basic
introduction; simply click on the italic words or phrases for
more information.
Who is WhollyLove set up and run by?
WhollyLove was founded and is run by Stan
and Stella. We are a happily married couple, and committed Christians. We are
directly involved in all aspects of the running of this site, including the
sourcing of the products stocked, and take
personal control of issues such as the images that
we use.
What is
WhollyLove?
A website offering products and advice celebrating God's fantastic gift of sex
within Christian marriage. Our main sections are:
Shop
- 12 categories with lots of products on offer to help improve sex in
marriage.
Discussions
- A chance for people to chat about things they never can over After Service
Coffee!
Advice
- Information about what the Bible really says about sex.
About - The aims of the website and information about the
people behind it!
Contact Us - We really do value all comments about this website - after
all, we've set it up for you!
Feedback - A chance to see what other people have said about the site
and products
Why WhollyLove?
This Website has been set up following what we believe to have been a clear (if
somewhat unusual!) calling from God, and want to work towards the following
aims:
1. Provide a platform from which to make clear that
sex in marriage is God's idea and it's great!
2. Provide aids to help married couples enjoy sex
more, improve intimacy, and so improve marriages!
3. Provide information for Christians on all aspects
of sexuality; to be a safe place where questions can be asked and answered, and
discussions held.
4. To offer help on problems related to sex …. Such
as body image, homosexuality, abuse etc.
When did
WhollyLove begin?
In 2005. Most of the year was spent in designing the site, sourcing the
products, and preparing the information. We have great plans to develop and
improve what's on offer, so keep coming back!
WhollyLove
The name of this site has been chosen to convey the thinking behind it;
Wholly Love:
That sex within marriage is totally about Love. Not a wishy washy love
‘feeling', but real Love that stands the test of time and is so well expressed
in the promises often used in marriage services. We believe that all sexual
acts within marriage should therefore take place under this umbrella; i.e. that
both husband and wife agree together as to what they both feel comfortable
doing. So all of our products can be used, with such agreement, with a clear
conscience. We have therefore not included for sale such items that we believe
fall outside of this umbrella, such as sado-masochistic items, as we feel these
do not best reflect the love and freedom that should be the bedrock of marital
sex; or DVDs and videos, etc. We also believe in charging a fair price for our
products, as many are priced considerably more by other retailers…. Quality and
value for money are very important to us. We have considerable experience
already within a different section of the retail trade, and so are firmly
commited to a good quality of customer service. We do hope that that is your
experience in your dealings with us.
Holy Love:
That sex within heterosexual marriage has been designed by God. At its best,
within this context, it is pure and right - there is nothing bad or dirty about
it and it should be enjoyed - often! This is part of what the Bible has to say
about sex that has not come across very clearly at all from the Church as a
whole - we want to redress the imbalance a bit! It is a gift from God that
enhances and strengthens married life.
Stan and Stella
We are a youngish couple, who have been married for more than a decade and
have been blessed with children. We are both committed Christians. We believe
strongly in serving God in the various ways He has lead us, but also recognise
the importance of having fun! Over the years we have come to appreciate
together the value and importance of sex within marriage. The image that sex
within marriage is given in the media within our culture is not usually
positive, whereas we believe it is the place where the best, most satisfying
sex can be had! When we wanted to purchase items to enhance our ‘sex life' we
became aware of the difficulties of doing this without being confronted by
inappropriate images and products. Aside from a perhaps negative portrayal of
sex within marriage, we also feel that the media has over-sexualised many areas
of life… you only need to watch the advertisements for everyday products on TV
to see that! Whilst we do not want to add to the ‘sexual pressure' that can be
perceived in everyday life, we are conscious that there is currently no help or
resources widely available to Christians and others with similar morale values,
which is why we have set up WhollyLove. We are also personally aware of the
damage that can be done when sex is misused, and see a need for a place where
Christians can share in a safe environment about negative experiences they may
have had, and so hope that we have put across a sensitivity to the problems and
difficulties people can experience with sex. We know that our God heals! And
cares about all aspects of our lives. And so where there is hurt and difficulty
we seek to be a channel of hope and healing.
Products
We aim to stock a wide range of products, of excellent quality, and reasonable
priced. Most of our products are priced below the RRP. With each one, we have
used our best judgement as to whether or not it is appropriate for use within
marriage. We welcome any feedback you may have as to what you think we should
or should not include, and why! We recognise that, as with all products of any
description, once it has passed this basic ‘approval' it still has the capacity
to be misused….. For example any item could potentially be used outside of
marriage. However, we feel the responsibility rests with the buyer for how they
intend to use it - much as it is no more wrong to sell a vibrator than it would
be to sell a package of chocolate bars, which could either be eaten rightly or
wrongly to your health and well-being! We do not believe that any of our
products are inherently wrong in themselves; like everything else (including
exercise, food, sleep etc.) they have the capacity to be used rightly or
wrongly.
images We recognise the importance
of having a nudity and pornography free site. We believe that the Bible clearly
teaches that images of sexual nudity are for within marriage only. We do not
want to have any images of individuals with products on our site - we do not
want to exploit any models in this way. Another
example of this is that when products have inappropriate images on their
packaging, the image you will see in the shop will be of the product without
its packaging, or with the packaging digitally altered. Please be aware that
due to packaging and safety regulations, we are required to send such items to
you in their packaging (due to the description and advice on them) but this is
unavoidable.
1. Provide a platform from which to make clear that sex in
marriage is God's idea and it's great! Having been married for more than a
decade, we have become aware of the need for a positive message to be put
across from Christians about sex, which we believe the Bible teaches is a good
gift from God, to be cherished and enjoyed within heterosexual marriage.
Unfortunately, like all of God's good gifts, it should be enjoyed within the
boundaries He has made clear in His Word, and the Church in general has rightly
stood up and spoken against sex outside of these barriers. However, there is
very little - or none at all - spoken publicly by the Church or Christians
praising the many benefits of sex in marriage. We want to do this! So this site
is open to all adults, whether Christian or not. God is good, marriage is
great, and sex within marriage is the best there can possibly be!
2. Provide aids to help married couples enjoy sex more, improve
intimacy, and so improve marriages! The products we stock are not
‘wrong' or ‘bad' of themselves, but many Christians perhaps feel that they have
been unable to purchase them in the past… an unwillingness to visit sex shops
due to some of the products they stock (apart from anything else, it can be
very embarrassing especially if another church member, or worst still, your
church leader, catches you going in!) or to expose themselves to viewing
potentially pornographic or nude images or offensive words that may be found on
'secular' websites. There are no nude or pornographic images on this site. We
want to encourage those married couples to enjoy sex, try out new products,
positions, experiences - perhaps many things have not been tried as they have
been dismissed out of hand as being ‘wrong' with no real - or biblical - basis
for this…. Sex really can be great fun! How many ‘even Christian' marriages
have failed, at least in part, due to a disappointing sex life?
3. Provide information for Christians on all aspects of
sexuality; to be a safe place where questions can be asked and answered, and
discussions held. We have a discussion facility so people can chat about things
they may not feel comfortable in raising face-to-face. Where else can you go
for help or information, or simply a ‘I know how you feel!'? When was the last
time you heard a sermon about sex, especially about positive helpful teaching
regarding sex in marriage?
We do not claim to be experts, rather we have investigated all we can and speak
as one couple to another. At a later stage of website development, we aim to
get on board the specific help and advises from a sexual counsellor who will
offer advice within a biblical framework.
4. To help people! Some of the ‘people groups‘ we
feel can benefit from this site are as follows;
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MARRIED COUPLES:
The site can be viewed in the privacy of your own home, alone or with your
spouse, and can be a springboard for intimate chats…. How many couples will
talk to each other about everything but?!
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ENGAGED COUPLES:
Provide information, guidance, and products to those engaged couples; more
detailed than a brief chat from your church leader!
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INDIVIDUALS: Improve your knowledge about what God
actually says in the Bible about sex, for those talks down the pub or girly
chats over a glass of wine… and for advise about handling sex drive for single
people
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PARENTS:
in how to guide and speak to their children…
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‘CLERGY': To encourage them to speak openly about the positive
aspects of sex, and a place for them to get information when required!
5. To offer help
on problems related to marriage and sex…. Discussions,
testimonies, and resources on linked items such as sexual difficulties, body
image, eating disorders, child abuse within the church (yes, it does happen),
marriage guidance etc. We firmly believe in a healing God who cares, and so
welcome any testimonies you may like to share as to how God has helped you
overcome difficulties like these - be an encouragement to someone else who is
going through the same thing! If you want to share your story, please email us
to discuss this further.
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